STUDY: Women who have been cheated on are HAPPIER
Discovering that your partner is cheating on you is one of the most painful experiences imaginable. However, if you've gone through it yourself, we have good news for you!
A study by the University of Binghamton has shown that the experience of having an affair causes women to develop better techniques for choosing a mate, something the experts call "mating intelligence". This means that when you are ready to look for love again, you are likely to be more selective and make a great choice, avoiding other worthless guys.
Moreover, the nightmare of getting through the experience of being cheated on and a breakup brings about great personal growth— whether you like it or not, you'll learn more about yourself, become stronger and more emotionally resilient, and develop better coping strategies.
Even those endless nights spent sobbing on the couch with Netflix and boxes of chocolates can be benficial— research associate and lead author on the study, Craig Morris, says that "Women, almost exclusively as compared to men, eventually report that they took the time to assess their former mate, themselves, and even their life in general. This 'positive rumination' is what appears to lead to a more successful return (at the time of her choosing) to the 'mating game.'"
Of course, this doesn't mean that being cheated on is all sunshine and rainbows, but it is important to remember that even in a terrible experience, there is a silver lining.
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