RELATIONSHIPS: Why SPACE is the key to making it LAST

Gourmandize Staff, 10/17/2016

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FAIRE DURER son COUPLE en se VOYANT MOINS ?!

What if the secret to a long-lasting, healthy relationship was seeing your significant other less?

What if we are losing our minds looking for miracle solutions, clever tricks and new habits to keep our relationship fresh, when all we needed was... space?

Would it work? Would it be hard? What would it be like? We investigate...

1. Because You and Me come before Us.

We’ve all been there: we’re busy in our lives, working towards our goals and spending our free time doing what we love… Until, bam! We’re suddenly in a relationship, and all those goals and hobbies vanish like smoke in favor of lazy mornings together and night after night of Netflix and chill.
It’s easy to get so lost in your significant other’s eyes that you completely lose sight of all the things originally had your heart set on. But give yourself a little space, and suddenly you can pursue your dream life as well as your dream partner.

2. Your place or mine? Or both?

Living together as a couple makes so many things easier- you can have cuddles on demand, you don't need two different toothbrushes and a clean wardrobe in two different places, and there is always somebody around to help you finish that Jumbo sized pizza you heated up.
But it can also means a lot of compromise. Often this means giving up your personal privacy, adjusting your cleaning standards, and realigning your financial priorities to suit someone else’s needs. Why bother with all that hassle? Keep things simple, separate, and your way — that way you’ll both stay satisfied.

3. Calling all the independent ladies!

We all have that friend (or friends) who disappear right out of our lives the second they begin a new relationship, and let’s face it, we've all done it ourselves too.
It's easy to get swept up in a new relationship, drunk on the feelings of love and crazy sex and the newness of it all... but rationing yourself might just pay off better in the long-term. Making time for your girlfriends means you’ll stay grounded and remember who you are, no matter what happens with your new man.

4. Chuck the routine: sex lies in spontaneity

There’s nothing like the thrill of love — all butterflies, racing hearts, and furiously hot sex. But for people in long-term relationships, that dizzying initial rush eventually fades. The culprit? Routine!
When you’re together every day, it gets easy to get caught up in the little annoyances: socks strewn across the floor, hair clogging the shower, dishes in the sink… It’s enough to get you wishing for the excitement of those first days!
It turns out the old adage is right, absence does make the heart grow fonder. And with every encounter rare and precious, all that awful noise starts to fade away.

5. Reunions are hot!!

Spending all that time apart means you’ll be building up tension… Through flirty texts, saucy Snapchats, and long, lingering phone calls. So when you finally do see each other, it’s electric.
Your libido will thank you, and all that time in your head will have opened up a realm of new sexual fantasies...

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